Listen up girlfriends, I am going to approach social media like a mom and a friend who speaks the truth, because if our friends don’t speak the truth, are they really our friends? I'm just sayin'
Social media can be fun, educational, encouraging, and connects us to experiences and people that we would otherwise not have a connection to. It allows us to see the world through other people’s experiences, it offers us tips and tutorials, educational platforms and friendships.
So, let’s chat for a minute about social media. The beautiful, fun, entertaining, and if we allow it…equally as unhealthy platform that we spend so much time on.
Guilty As Charged
Look, I am guilty of spending too much time on social media but I have become more intentional about limiting my time and you can be absolutely certain the moment I even think about allowing comparison into my thoughts, I shut her down and you know how I do that, by speaking words of gratitude and changing my mindset. I do this by filling my mind with things I love most about myself and the abundant blessings I have been given.
The Good, the Bad and the Ugly
Social media can be so good. It wasn’t created to become a platform for comparison. Social media can be fun, educational, encouraging, and connects us to experiences and people that we would otherwise not have a connection to. It allows us to see the world through other people’s experiences, it offers us tips and tutorials, educational platforms and friendships. I believe when we are in the proper mindset, it even challenges us to grow and become the best we can be. It can be SO good, so let’s make sure we only allow the good in our lives.
Now that we’ve covered some of the good, let’s talk about the downside of social media. Comparison. I believe comparison is the leading cause to lowered self-esteem, insecurity, unhealthy expectations and ultimately can lead to anxiety and depression. Please know this…most of these influencers that we all follow only show the good. They don’t let you into the bad, the struggles, the images without makeup, the hoops they have had to jump through and the hurdles they have had to overcome to get to where they are. They don’t always share with you the raw truth; the truth that everyone one of them struggle, have bad days, feel inadequate at times, some even suffer from anxiety and depression. Most people only share the good in their lives. That’s okay, they aren’t obligated to show the bad, but we are being unreasonable when we think their lives are perfect! They aren’t!
I know this…the people I follow and the people I know who are genuinely happy and live a life of joy and peace have major struggles are faced with difficulty, feel insecure from time to time, experience fear, but the difference is their mindset. They don’t find joy in the things they don’t have or the opportunities they don’t have (they create them). They have a mindset of gratitude and find happiness in what they have been given, their families, and their friends.
Do me a favor and spend the next few minutes writing a list of the blessings in your life and what you love most about yourself.
Here’s my list:
• I have a God who loves me and designed me for a purpose
• I have a husband who loves and adores me
• I was chosen to be the mother of some of the most incredible girls
• I am healthy and my husband & girls are healthy
• I have a roof over my head
• I have food, clothes, an education, transportation, and family & friends who love me
• I have the ability to change anything about myself that I don’t like
• I have freedom to practice my faith and my religion
I could go on for days, but you get the idea.
What I love most about myself
• I love that I know how to love others
• I love that I have the confidence and courage to pursue my dreams and purpose
• I love that I am tall
• I love that I learn from my failures and I am not afraid to fail
• I love that I love creating a home for my husband and girls that offers safety, protection, comfort and love
These are just a few but I won’t bore you with the rest.
Now, the next time you are tempted to compare your beautiful self to someone on social media, stop…focus on your blessings and what you love most about your life and yourself and tell that nasty comparison to hit the road.
Go set the world on fire!